Resolutions - Good or Bad?


Far too often, year after year - we get to mid January and think - oh well, another bunch of resolutions gone by the wayside.... but it really doesn't have to be that way!  Why not make resolutions that are different, that set achievable goals - baby steps.  Instead of making over the top promises to ourselves, let's work on small things, first - because enough small goals accomplished will quickly add up to larger goals!

Let's talk about some resolutions that can be positive, promote self growth and care....realistically.

1. Why not start on that project you've always talked about - take some classes, try a new eating plan ( not necessarily a full blown diet, but make some small changes - less sugar, less snacking, try a cleanse), clean out one corner of your closet - once you get started who knows where you'll go! 

There's a lot of truth in the quotes "Regrets are missed opportunities" or "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take".

2.  Learn to say "no" - Of all the suggestions this list will contain, this is quite possibly the MOST liberating idea - once you learn to say "yes" to only what makes you happy, feel good and really want really can and will change your life - take it from someone who has spent years as an exhausted people pleaser!  

You will find yourself feeling less stressed, have a whole lot more time to get your own "list" checked off and, good or bad, discover who is and is not a true friend...

3.  Start thinking "I don't see why not" instead of "I can't"; "Try me" instead of "Why me"?  Cliches at their finest, no doubt...but oh so important in self-care and a crucial step in a more positive mindset.

One of the biggest differences between successful and unsuccessful people?  Drive, ambition and plain old belief!  Just think - what would happen if you started thinking "I can and I will" today!

4.  Be more accountable - whether it's being late for work, missing a deadline, forgetting a date, or saying something that you probably shouldn't have - own it, apologize and honestly make an effort to do better.  

People will appreciate your honesty and your efforts - and you will feel less guilt and stress.

5.  Spend time with people who make you feel good, not with people who make you feel you're not good enough!  This is seriously my personal favourite - again, from a former obsessive people pleaser, there is nothing that feels better than being accepted - for who you are!  

We all need (whether we want to admit it or not) to feel like we're ok...so make the choice to spend time around people who truly accept you - unless your behaviours are toxic, there is no reason to change to make people like you - take 1/2 an hour and call that friend who can make you laugh, no matter what - 1/2 hour is less than 2% of your day, surely you can spend that time on you! 

6.  Make time for self-care.  No excuses, no delays - self-care is vital to good health; mental and physical.  Start simple - a quick 10 minute skin care routine (1% of your day!), a good book, 5 minutes by yourself, doing nothing; it will grow and so will your ability to relax, to let go, to believe in you.

7.  Put down the tech - seriously - put it down!  Phones, tablets, computers...some reports say that the "average" person spends 2 1/2 hours per day on social media???  That's 3 days each month!!  

Try setting up screen time notifications - bet you'll scare yourself!  Imagine - if you had 3 whole extra days what you could accomplish!  You can have that time, just take it back - and, if nothing else, enjoy some quality quiet time, let your brain rest.

8.  Find reasons to be happy and grateful.  Instead of thinking about what you don't have try looking for what is good and right in your world.  The cliche about life being what you make it really is true - and while self pity does come around and it's ok to visit that street, you don't want to live there!

The more you can find to be happy and grateful for, the less you will obsess and spend time and money on things you don't need - I call that winning!

There are so many more ideas, I'm sure - just a starter guide offered here.  Accepting yourself while improving yourself, finding joy in the life you are living, learning new things and accepting new ideas - these are all stepping stones on the path to self improvement and really, isn't that what New Year's resolutions are supposed to be about?

 

Happy New Year to all, here's to 2021 opening new doors and bringing new opportunities to all!  Thank you for your support in 2020, we look forward to serving you in the New Year!